Does everyone have a life purpose? No, only a few. But why? The fact is that, unlike a dream, a goal requires effort, daily work to achieve. If you think about what is important to you every day, and take steps to achieve the goal, then you have a goal. If you don’t know what is important to you, or new thoughts arise every day, or you think a lot but do nothing, then you don’t have a goal yet.

Meaning of life

From time to time we all ask ourselves the question: “What is the meaning of life? Where should I go? What do I want to see at the end of this path? But not everyone answers such questions, and this is important. After all, a global life goal helps not to give up, to move forward, not to get lost in the cycle of life. There are methods to help determine the true purpose of life.

There are mundane plans: to buy an apartment / house, start a family and children, become a worthy worker, achieve success in a career, but a person may not find a serious goal. It can be seen that this is not particularly important, that if you do not know where you are going, then you cannot make a mistake on the road. Part of this statement is true.

Get ready to accept everything. For some people, the word "goal" is associated with wealth, success. You have to come to terms with the fact that this is not the case. It is important to understand that the goal will be prosaic and mundane.

But what will be the path - joyful or difficult? If a person is happy, he does not think about the goal and the horror begins when he falls into depression and melancholy. That's when a true goal is required in order for the desire to live on to appear. Well, if it is already prepared.

To search for a goal that means a lot to you, you should not turn to psychics and seers, or live in a monastery. Next, we will talk about a method that will not require so much time. But before that, it is worth clarifying some points.

Not necessarily the goal is in a familiar area where you are looking for destiny and meaning. Just prepare for the fact that the meaning will be a completely new and unfamiliar thing.

Why does a person need a life purpose

It is very important in search of the meaning of life to understand why a person really needs a life goal:

• gives us a reason to live on. A person has what he aspires to. Now you are happy, but if there is no goal, then the emptiness inside will one day swallow you;
• the goal does not just give meaning to existence, it will help to find the right path, reasonable and correct decisions. The choice becomes easy if you see a clear end goal;
• goal is motivation. Even in difficult periods, you can not throw everything halfway. Troubles and sorrows begin to haunt you. But in this case, aspirations are needed that will give motivation to live on.

Finding purpose in life and complexity

It is also worth understanding that the process of finding a purpose in life is not easy, because the goal does not have a universal formula. This is a personal concept for each of us.

Believe in yourself and the goal. This is the main achievement criterion. You can not stop halfway if you are 100% sure of the choice.

Also, remember that finding your life purpose will take time. This is the key reason why people cannot find the target. People usually want instant results, and this journey is not limited by time frames.

Lack of faith is one of the reasons

Sometimes people don't reach their goals because they don't believe it's possible. There are certain reasons for this. Sometimes there is no support from loved ones, or it interferes unsuccessful experience of the past. But you will prove that it is real.

If you are not sure of yourself from the very beginning, then give up the chosen goal. She is most likely wrong. But focus your efforts on the new task.

Wrong target

What does the concept of "incorrectly chosen goal" mean? It happens that you want to achieve a goal because it is the desire of other people. Or are you doing it to impress.

Sometimes another indication of the wrong goal is the fact that you do not think about whether you will succeed in achieving it. You can't just repeat another person's goal either.

Lack of patience, action plan and consistency

If you have found the whole, then your road will not become simple and easy. You will need a lot of time and effort. And lack of patience will not help you in anything.

It also happens that a person sets a goal, but does not go further. He does not believe that it is necessary to draw up a minimum plan of action, to determine the time frame for achieving the goal. Every day should start with reading the list of life goals.

It is important to set the right tasks that will help you achieve your goal, every day you need to look for solutions.

Main Goal Criteria

The only correct criterion for a true goal is that it brings joy and satisfaction. We strive to continuously enjoy life, and at the same time, it should be a lot, no matter what: from work or success in it, from gaining new knowledge, communicating with people.

True purpose is a global source of joy and satisfaction that lasts a lifetime. Thus, your goal is easy to check: if it does not bring joy, then this is definitely not it.

How to find your own goals in life. easy way

So, that very easy method "How to find your own goals":

• retire;
• write the title "My Goal" on a piece of paper;
• turn off all thoughts;
• start writing whatever comes into your head.

The purpose of the method is that if the true purpose is written, then you will experience a violent emotional outburst.

Why is it necessary to turn off thoughts? Because a lot of ideas accumulate in the head during life. They write right away. And in order not to get confused, it is important to monitor emotions. If the writing does not evoke these feelings, then the goal is not suitable.

It will take one person 20 minutes, the other will sit for 2 hours. The main thing is not to stop. After the first thoughts that will not evoke emotions in you, it seems that this is all nonsense, a waste of time. But it is important to overcome yourself, which will allow you to find out what you are going to live for.

During reflection and search, options arise that cause an uplift in mood, but not powerful. Mark them, maybe they are part of the main goal and will help you find it.

This advice will help purposeful people who are not afraid to seek the true purpose and meaning of life. Everyone will become such a person if they get out of the shell and stop being afraid of change. Around us interesting world full of new achievements. You just need to open up and trust him.

Questions for goal setting

In the process of searching, you can also use this method. Here are 7 questions to help you set the right goal:

• what brings you satisfaction? The choice of goal depends entirely on the activities that you like. There are many examples in life when people, doing their favorite work, reached incredible heights. You don't have to look far for examples: Bill Gates was fond of computers, Oprah Winfrey helped people, and Edison loved to come up with innovative inventions from childhood. Think about what is right for you. This is communication, business, sports, needlework - anything;
• how do you spend your leisure time? These activities also help in finding goals. If you like to stand at the easel, then this is a sign where you should move. Likewise with any hobby. The main thing is to find the signs and not lose them. AT free time think about what you would like to do;

The right questions are the key to the right answers. All this directs thoughts in the right direction, helps to look for the main answer.

• what is given special attention? Everyone knows that many sellers immediately determine whether the product will become popular among buyers. The same applies to hairdressers who immediately determine whether styling is suitable for a person or not. And the designer will choose stylish clothes among the absurdities. What attracts attention? What annoys you? These answers will help you find that very goal;
• What are you interested in learning or learning? What literature do you read? Maybe in her in question about business, hunting, cooking? These preferences will help decide the main life problems. Think about the books you would like to have in your library;
• what inspires you to create? Perhaps you are sure that selling is an art? Or do you want to come home as soon as possible to prepare a new culinary masterpiece? Or new impressions make you pick up a brush and paint? Think about these questions;
• Do other people like your features or what you do? Do your friends like your culinary delights? If this is not the case, then cooking is definitely not your goal. Or do people like your voice and also the way you dance? Perhaps friends like to read your notes. Each person has special abilities that attract others;
• If you knew you were going to be successful, what would you be doing? One would open a salon, the other would take up music, and the third would begin the development of the store. Each answer to this question is a setting for finding a goal.

As you can see, the search for the main purpose in life is not too difficult, but it requires some effort and time. Strive for the best, do not stop halfway, then you will certainly find what is hidden in the depths of your soul.

The real tragedy is not
that goals cannot be achieved
and in their absence

We all dream and wish for something. And often, wishing, we do not take steps simply because we do not know - but what to do to make the wish come true?

Of course, set goals.

Desire and purpose are not the same thing. A goal is a specific address where what we want is located. For example, “I want to travel a lot” is a desire, and “I’m going to Paris for ten days in January, and Madrid for two weeks in March” is already a goal.

A goal is needed in order to understand where to go. If we shoot an arrow without seeing the target, the chance of a successful hit will be negligible. This is the first moment. And the second - the goal is needed in order to plan specific actions.

If we get lost in the forest, sit on a stump and dream of getting home, dreams will not lead us to a clearing. If we set a goal to find a way, then we begin to take steps and find opportunities. We have a plan, and the chances of a successful outcome increase dramatically. That is, the goal is a kind of transformer of desires into action)).

Another reason for the need for goals in life is the possibility of development. “I want” cannot be considered a full-fledged goal. If we want something and believe that we have a goal to achieve it, then - no, the goal “I want” has an end point ... continue to want. I will talk more about this in the article on the right setting of goals. Wanting means just going to the open sea, having a goal means knowing exactly where to send the ship. Purpose gives us development. Living without goals, we roll back. Staying at one point for a long time will not work, therefore - either forward or backward. Without a goal, "forward" will not work.

Farther. Having goals allows us to get away from extraneous manipulations. If we know exactly what we want and what we don't, it will be difficult to force us to fulfill other people's dreams. Having no goals of our own, we will constantly spend time and energy on achieving others, and this is a path that takes us far from joy and happiness.

And finally, every minute of our lives we make choices that create our future. Every choice is an opportunity. Seeing the goals, we will always understand which opportunity to choose, and we will be able to fully use the gifts sent to us by the Universe.

I summarize. If you are not satisfied with some areas of your life, this is a signal that, among other things, there is a disorder with goals. By deciding what you would like to change and setting specific goals, you can begin to act and change your reality now. Go with the flow or create change - you just have to decide. Once the goals are set, opportunities will open up like a magic chest, I guarantee :).

In the following articles I will tell you what goals are, how to set and achieve them correctly. In the meantime, leave your questions in the comments.

Your inspirational consultant
Yulia Solomonova)

Oh, how nice it is to read the recommendations of the coaches and make a list of the main goals. Dream, try to "visualize" what has already been achieved, sitting in a comfortable chair! Did you do it? Didn't the problem of life's goals slip away from you like a goldfish waving its tail? If not, then you are lucky! After all, there are people who do not understand what goal to strive for, and for whom seeing their goals in life is equal to achieving happiness. This is possible only with an understanding of the problem.

The purpose of life is different for everyone.

First, what is a goal? It is a goal or something that is being strived for.

The concept of goal setting can include very ordinary things, including the standard ones:

To find a good job,
go to college
earn a car or an apartment

And there are many more everyday things that we solve without even thinking that we set ourselves a task and completed it.
But there are global goals relating to the meaning of life, purpose.

The question of purpose in life is inextricably linked with the search for its meaning for a special category of people - endowed by nature with a sound vector. They are only 5% of the total number of people on the planet. Possessors of abstract intelligence, they try to understand what is the true nature of man. Distinguished from others by the absence of material claims, such people are immersed in their own inner world. And the questions coming from the depths of the unconscious - who am I, why am I, what is the meaning of my life and life in general - can overshadow the entire material world with its "minor" problems for them.

The main thing for the owner of a sound vector is to determine whether this vector is present in oneself, to realize its essence. And then all the features of the psyche will become clear, removing a person from the brilliant and noisy world of other people who are unlike him - with such mercantile, in his opinion, life goals.

A unique chance to understand this is given by the training "Systemic Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan.

If for a person with a sound vector the goal of life raises questions exclusively about the higher meaning of existence, then for the owners of other vectors the list of goals in life covers all spheres of earthly existence. Moreover, each vector has its own preferences. For example, for a person with a visual vector, the main thing is love and beauty, for a skin person - success, benefit and benefit, for an anal person - family and respect from colleagues.

Consider systematically some of the nuances of such a complex and controversial topic as goals in life from the standpoint of achieving dreams, success and fulfillment of desires.

Why does a person need a purpose in life

There are numerous forums on this question. personal growth they answer simply. For example, like this: “The goal disciplines, helps to determine the guidelines in life, sweep away the unnecessary, focus on the main thing.”

Or so: "The goal is the key to success." Moreover, the classic advised "to live in such a way that it would not be excruciatingly painful for the aimlessly lived years." This quote is embedded in our unconscious forever!

If you look at the goal setting methods recommended by numerous trainings on the Internet through the prism of Systemic Vector Psychology, you will notice that they are all from the same author! It really is. The technology that came from the West to achieve success on the wave of global social changes in our society was replicated as an opportunity for quick enrichment and managed to find fertile ground in a situation where, after the collapse of the USSR, the system of values ​​was shaken in the Russian world.

Business coaches taught gullible clients how to make plans for success, using the developed algorithm for making dreams come true and fulfilling cherished desires. Offered to determine a decent income. The question is how much do you want to earn? - launched in the minds of installations that are not characteristic of a simple worker who has received a fixed salary all his life.

Offering to set such a goal in life, a person was oriented to a good example of the successful embodiment of someone's dream, while the innate properties and the communal mentality of the Russian world that had developed over the centuries were not taken into account.

The list of life goals for most people is most often the desired benefits. And when emerging problems prevent the achievement of these benefits, we tend to look for reasons in external circumstances. And the reasons are hidden inside, in the human psyche! These are, first of all, the mistakes of education, provoked by ignorance of human nature. Alien goals and dreams imposed by society and loved ones will not make us happier.

A home girl, a neat student and an excellent student, - the owner of the anal vector - sets herself the goal of losing weight to the cherished 50 kg in order to make a career as a model. Why does she need it? It's trendy, it's beautiful. But, of course, in her soul there is no such desire. It is superficial. Her happiness is to build a nest and create a family.

A nimble, active girl with a skin-visual bundle of vectors is taught from childhood that the main purpose of a woman is a family and the birth of children. Setting a goal, even a noble one, but not her own, she will drag out a quiet, joyless existence, not realizing that she needs something else to be happy.

And often unconscious subconscious programs interfere with the achievement of the goal, for example, the loser complex in the skin vector.

How to understand what is the main and what is secondary on the way to the fulfillment of a dream, and why the goal achievement algorithms recommended by coaches do not work?
You don't have to go far to understand these questions.

How the problem of life goals is solved - a systematic view

Problem - translated from Greek as an obstacle, difficulty.

Problems in achieving the goal begin when the desire and the ability to get something do not match. How to decide on the formulation of the main question - how to get what you want? And why even a very strong desire to achieve a dream does not always work, causing suffering.

Training by Yuri Burlan "System-vector psychology", considering a person as a carrier of innate mental properties - vectors, shows the mechanism for fulfilling desires. In this case, we are not talking about magic spells, affirmations, or visualizing your dreams. In System-Vector Psychology, the properties of each vector are analyzed and compared in detail. As a result, it becomes clear which main desires and dreams are priority in each individual case.

Each individual case is a man or a woman who has special properties that are unique to them, taking into account which, it is possible to easily form a list of goals. Yes, and it may not be needed if you know your properties given from birth. Here is a short list of what Systemic Vector Psychology reveals:

• Vector. There are eight of them - four lower and four upper. It is they who are the root cause of desires, and it depends on the degree of their development or underdevelopment whether natural desires will be fulfilled, or problems will arise in achieving the goal.
• Combinations and bundles of vectors. Modern people, especially urban residents, have several vectors in their mentality, which can switch depending on external influences. An example is the combination of cutaneous and anal vectors in one person. Most often, the switch occurs unconsciously. Ignorance of one's own characteristics just creates unpredictable problems in life.
• Combinations of vectors affect the manifestations of a person both in society and in interpersonal relationships. For example, a skin-visual woman has a natural attraction, and an anal-visual woman is distinguished by super-concern for loved ones, although both -
  very emotional and vulnerable.
• Dominant vectors - urethral, ​​sound and olfactory - set the tone for other human vectors. For example, if the sound vector is not filled, then it suppresses the manifestations of other vectors, causing problems in different areas of life - a person is simply in severe depression and is not even motivated by the fact that he needs to pay bills or keep the house clean.
• Two vectors that do not need to set goals in life, or rather, somehow specifically motivate themselves, are the urethral and olfactory. The goal is built into the unconscious of the owners of these vectors, and their whole life, with harmonious development, is subordinated to one thing - the preservation of the human "flock", and each of them has their own motives at the basis of this noble goal.
  How the dramaturgy of their life is revealed, Yuri Burlan's training tells.

It is difficult to live when there is no dream and purpose in life! It is even more difficult when there is a dream, the goal is outlined, but insurmountable obstacles constantly arise on the way. Difficulties with achievement cause despair, hands fall and there is no desire to go anywhere! You can overcome such a state only by understanding the underlying causes of what is happening, figuratively speaking, by excavating your unconscious, because it is there that the reasons for failures are hidden!

In a person's life, the greatest value is his life goals. Their presence and scale determine the level of achievements of the individual, and their absence leads to the consequences of such a state can be the so-called noogenic neuroses, which are treated only by meaning.

The concept of purpose in psychology

In psychology, goals are understood as the results realized by a person, towards the achievement of which his actions are directed. Thus, goals encourage a person to act in order to meet actualized needs. Distinguish between activity goals and life goals.

Throughout life, a person performs a huge number of various activities, each of which pursues a specific goal. They only reveal individual parties direction of the individual's personality.

The life goal is a generalization of all private goals certain types activities. At the same time, the implementation of each individual goal of the activity is a partial implementation of the general one.

In the life goals of a person, the "concept of one's own future" that he realizes finds its expression. When a person is also aware of the reality of its implementation, they talk about the perspective of the individual. Therefore, the level of achievements of the individual is associated with life goals.

Man's highest goal

E. Fromm, a famous German-American philosopher and psychologist, considered the disclosure and the most complete realization of his inner potential as the highest life goal of a person. He considered it unchanging and independent of other supposedly higher goals.

According to E. Fromm, who shares the highest values ​​of humanistic ethics, a person must understand that he is the center and goal of his life. Being yourself is what matters most. To achieve this, you need to be a person for yourself, which means loving yourself, instead of throwing yourself into extremes of self-denial or self-love, the manifestation and assertion of your own "I", and not the suppression and rejection of your individuality. In other words, you need to allow yourself to be natural and become what he potentially is.

aim life path E. Fromm saw human development self. At the same time, he emphasized that there is no other meaning to life, except that the individual himself gives it in the course of a fruitful life and the disclosure of his natural talents.

Why is it important to be the center of your life?

The main moral problem of our time, according to E. Fromm, is the indifference of a person to himself. Speaking about moral problems, he emphasizes the differences between the authoritarian conscience of a person and the humanistic one, which very often have contradictions.

Authoritarian conscience is the result of the internalization of the external authorities of parents, society, and the state. On the one hand, it performs regulatory social function, on the other hand, makes a person dependent on someone else's opinion.

Humanistic conscience does not depend on external rewards and sanctions. It represents a person's own inner voice, expressing his integrity, personal interests, and demanding to become what he potentially is.

E. Fromm saw contradictions and intrapersonal conflicts of a moral nature at the basis of most neuroses. He considered them as a symptom, as a result of an unsuccessful attempt to resolve the contradictions between the insurmountable internal dependence on some attitudes or rules and the desire for freedom. This shows how important it is to be at peace and harmony with yourself.

Innate desire for meaning

According to the views of the Austrian psychologist, neurologist and psychiatrist V. Frankl, a person's desire to find and realize the meaning and goals of his life is an innate motivational tendency. It is inherent in all people without exception and is the main driving force that determines the behavior and development of the individual.

Feeling the meaning of one's own existence and determining vital goals are extremely important for maintaining the mental and psychological health of any person, regardless of age. Guided by his life observations, the results of clinical practice and a variety of empirical data, V. Frankl came to the following conclusion: in order to live and act actively, a person must believe that his actions have meaning.

existential vacuum

V. Frankl discovered that the lack of meaning in one's actions and deeds plunges a person into the so-called existential vacuum. This state can be described as suffering from a feeling of emptiness and loss of life orientation. The loss of life goals and values ​​makes him think about the meaninglessness of his own existence. At the same time, a person loses interest not only in the activities performed, but also in life itself.

According to V. Frankl's observations, supported by numerous clinical studies, it is the existential vacuum that is the cause of the noogenic neuroses that are widespread today. To work with such states, the scientist developed his own method - logotherapy, which means treatment with meaning. To overcome such an ailment, a person must reconsider his personal life priorities, change his attitude to the world around him, and find his own unique meanings.

Freedom of choice and responsibility

According to V. Frankl, finding the meaning and main goals in life is only half the battle. It is also important to implement them. This process is not simple, it is not done automatically. Fear of losing something is often the main reason for refusing to move towards the desired goal.

• physiological;
• in safety;
• in belonging and love;
• in respect;
• in self-actualization.

As the needs of one level are satisfied, the needs of the next level are updated. Accordingly, as you move from the lower floors of the pyramid to the higher, the priorities, goals and motives of a person change. At a certain stage of development highest value acquires a need for self-actualization.

Human self-actualization

Self-actualization according to A. Maslow is a person's desire for self-fulfillment, for the manifestation of one's potential and the full use of one's talents, abilities and capabilities.

According to his concept, people are intelligent, conscious creatures. They are naturally good and capable of self-improvement. The very essence constantly moves them in the direction of personal growth, creativity and self-sufficiency.

The self-actualized person is not a common person, to whom something has been added, but an ordinary person, from whom nothing has been taken away. He considered the average individual as a complete human being, with suppressed and unconscious abilities and gifts.

A. Maslow considered the tendency to self-actualization as the core of personality. A person strives to constantly embody, objectify himself, his abilities and talents. But he can realize himself only in activity. Thus, the need for self-realization and the need for activity are indivisible for the individual.

How to define your strategic goals

Since the life goals of a person are a generalization of all his private goals, then one should think about them with a scale. At the same time, attention must be directed to the desired future. What prospects of his development does a person see? What achievements do you dream of? What is the meaning of them? What does he see as the purpose of his life?

Often people do not have conscious goals, simply because they live on autopilot and do not think about the future, do not engage in strategic planning for several years ahead. And it happens that there are goals, but not their own. For example, mother, father, husband, child. In this case, in order to increase the level of awareness and understanding of oneself, to determine and separate one’s goals from others, a person is invited to conscientiously answer questions like these:

• What are my goals in life?
• How would I like to spend the next 3 years?
• Where do I want to be in 10 years?
• If I had 3 months to live, how would I live?
• If I lived forever, what would my life be like, what would I do?
• If I were incredibly rich and could never work at all, what would I do?

There are no strict and specific rules for setting goals. This process is deeply personal and creative. And yet, in order to determine your life goals, it is better to rely on some scientific model, technique, system. For example, the model of neurological levels by R. Dilts is well suited. And you can get tips, pointers, codes for a life goal in numerology, astrology.

Pyramid of logical levels

As part of neurolinguistic programming, R. Dilts developed a model of neurological levels. It is based on a hierarchy of semantic levels of personality, each of which has its own specific questions. The author presented it in the form of a pyramid and identified the following levels:

• Mission - Why? For who else?
• Identity - Who am I?
• Values ​​and beliefs - What matters? What do I believe?
• Abilities - What can I do? How?
• Behavior - What to do?
• Environment - Where? With whom? When?

The pyramid of neurological levels by R. Dilts allows you to deeply explore a specific goal. Answering, it would seem, very simple questions, moving from one floor of the pyramid to the next, a person gets the opportunity to ascend from the lower level of the usual surrounding reality to the level of awareness of his mission.

Filled with new meanings, a larger and more holistic vision, it is necessary to go through the issues of the pyramid again, only now in reverse direction. This will allow you to see untapped opportunities, inhibitory factors and understand what adjustments need to be made at each level of the pyramid. The use of this model by R. Dilts to determine the main life goals of a person will also make it possible to authentically coordinate his private goals with them.

Everything is possible, but what a person allows himself is possible

Many people consider some things unattainable, and therefore do not set themselves ambitious goals. They proceed from the principle: if all this does not work out early, then there is no need to try. Nevertheless, life is replete with examples when some individuals prove by their example that it is never too late to radically change your life, fill it with meaning and make it more rich, fruitful and happy.

Nick Vujicic is a motivating and inspiring speaker, gathering entire stadiums, a writer, and also a husband, the father has neither arms nor legs. However, he managed to cope with the difficult situation of his life, find meaning, and now helps other people find them.

Writer, contributor documentary film The "Secret" before his path to success began, was at the bottom of his life, having neither a livelihood nor a place to live. It was desperation that pushed him to Conversations with God. This is the name of his first book, and the film subsequently shot based on it.

Joe Vitale is a popular author of books about achieving success, the owner of his own company, a millionaire, a participant in the movie "The Secret" in his biography has a long period when he was homeless. Perhaps it was this circumstance that served as a launching pad for a deep transformation of the personality and opened the way for a new life, self-realization and prosperity.

The acquisition of faith in oneself, the meaning and purpose of one's life is available to every person, and with them the ability to change it for the better. Achieving life goals depends on the continuous search for new opportunities for self-realization. Self-knowledge, expanding horizons, new interests and hobbies are great for this.

Most people don't reach their goals because they never really put them first. (Denis Waitley, mental coaching psychologists)

Everyone has heard about the need to set goals for themselves since childhood. This advice has become so familiar that it is no longer perceived as useful. And the need for goal setting eventually loses its relevance for the majority.

But really, why set goals? Can a goal make our lives better, and ourselves even a little happier?

American writer Chuck Palahniuk once said: “If you don’t know what you want, you will end up with what you definitely don’t want.” A clear understanding of what we really need allows us to take concrete steps to get what we want. A life in which there are goals becomes meaningful and fulfilling, and achievements, even the most modest ones, bring moral satisfaction and quite tangible material fruits.

In fact, goals, even if unconscious and illusory, are set by any person. Many people like to talk about what they would like to have, what to change in their environment and in themselves. Some are not satisfied with their physical condition, others would like to devote more time to loved ones and favorite activities, others dream of a career and material well-being. But at the same time, few take it upon themselves to clearly articulate what exactly they want, what needs to be done for this, and what paths should be chosen to achieve the desired result.

Often people are simply afraid to make plans and set clearly defined goals. You know the saying: "If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans." Probably, it was invented by an incorrigible fatalist, not accustomed to being responsible for himself and his life.

Indeed, why plan and dream something when all life depends on the circumstances in which we find ourselves, full of obstacles and difficulties? A much easier solution seems to be to simply wait for something good to "happen". But it, this good thing, for some reason "happens" extremely rarely. As a result, a sea of ​​negative emotions and dissatisfaction with one's own fate.

But a person who sets clear goals for himself lives differently: he perceives difficulties and obstacles on the way to his dream not as fatal bad luck, but as interesting tasks who really decide and move on. His life is filled with vivid impressions, he is proud of himself and his achievements. From a passive extra, he turns into a director and builder of his own destiny.

To make sure that goal setting really helps to make life better, let's try to formulate what specific benefits reasonable goal setting can provide.

1. Control over the situation

Comparison human life with a fast river flow is not new, but clearly enough. Imagine that you need to cross from one side of a river to the other. A person without a goal gives himself up to the power of the flow of events and waits for the flow to carry him at least somewhere. Of course, ideally, he would like to get to the other side, but everything depends on the circumstances, i.e. from where the river takes him.

A person who is clearly aware of his goal - to get to a specific place on the opposite bank - will make every effort to get closer to the intended point: fight the current, row with all his might, calculate the trajectory of movement, etc. Which of the two do you think is more likely to reach the opposite shore? Undoubtedly, the one who maximally seeks to control the situation in accordance with a clearly defined goal.

2. The meaning of life

While this may make some people smile, clearly defined goals really help to find meaning in life. And not only due to the fact that a person knows exactly where to move. If everyday life turns from expectation into a path in which every step brings us closer to something concrete and definite, it cannot be called empty.

At the same time, every moment of existence acquires meaning, which makes the dream a little more real and closer, because the meaning of life is not so much in the result, but in the process. You yourself will be surprised what new emotions and unexpected pleasant surprises await you on this road, what opportunities will open up for you when implementing even such simple plans as daily walking, gaining harmony, mastering the wisdom of sewing or knitting, or studying foreign language. The only thing you lose by clearly defining goals for yourself is the feeling that your life is wasted.

3. Productivity

By clearly formulating what exactly you want to achieve, you can highlight individual tasks on the way to achieving the goal. Many of them will be quite realistic to solve in the very near future, and some right now. Instead of abstract dreams, you will move on to concrete actions, you will overcome concrete difficulties step by step and solve problems. specific problems- which means that you will really start moving in the right direction and get tangible results almost immediately.

4. Self-confidence and enthusiasm

By solving clearly formulated tasks, you can easily evaluate the results of your efforts. For clarity, it is useful to record achievements in the form of a table or graph - so you can at any time be sure that your actions bring quite tangible results. It inspires and gives strength to move on.

Of course, you can keep notes in a regular notepad or in a file on your computer. But it is much more convenient to do this with the help of our service, designed specifically to help anyone clearly articulate their goals and make a plan to achieve them. Our specialist coaches and community members will help you not to stop halfway, who will definitely find words of support, advise on how to increase motivation, and, of course, rejoice with you in new successes. By the way, the recognition of your achievements by other people is a really powerful source of increasing self-esteem and gaining confidence in yourself.

Such a system of compiling mini-reports and recording intermediate results will clearly demonstrate that you are really capable of a lot and help you analyze what still needs to be worked on. Even one realized goal will make you realize that dreams can come true, you just have to make an effort. Fear of building “huge plans” and doubts about one’s own abilities will give way to calm confidence and a desire to solve new problems.

5. Realization of the "impossible"

Dreams that seemed completely unrealizable are turning from castles in the air into real projects that are quite possible to realize. To do this, you just need to correctly determine what small steps can ultimately lead to the goal, determine intermediate tasks - and consistently work according to the plan. At the same time, to obtain results, perseverance and daily work are much more important than a flight of inspiration or a one-time “breakthrough” at the limit of possibilities. And such a dubious thing as luck generally fades into the background.

6. "A feeling of deep satisfaction"

Jokes aside, a clear goal setting allows you to really achieve a lot in life and, most importantly, to realize your successes and fully enjoy what you have achieved.

This is confirmed by numerous studies, as well as examples from the life of famous successful personalities. People who purposefully move towards certain results are rightfully proud of their achievements and strive for new ones. Why don't you follow their example?

7. Self-realization

Sometimes a person is not even aware of his abilities and talents. From day to day, almost mechanically performing the usual actions, solving problems “as they come”, he is confident that he is simply not capable of more.

The desired goal helps to push the boundaries of routine existence, to get out of the so-called "comfort zone" - after all, you have to do something unusual every day, learn new things, which means changing and developing, realizing the hidden potential inherent in everyone.

Non-standard solutions necessary for the full implementation of our plans, meeting new people who can inspire or teach us something, the joy of realizing our own strengths and abilities - all this and much more becomes possible for a person working to make his dream come true.