Why you no longer need to hunt for an MBA degree. Why you don't need a poor lover anymore

If there is a health myth that will never die, it is: “You should drink 2 liters of water a day.” It is not true. This belief has no scientific basis, but despite this, every summer the media begin to tell us that dehydration is dangerous and lies in wait for us everywhere. From these statements it emerges that everyone around - both adults and children - suffer from dehydration. Let's dot the "i" once and for all. Many believe that the origin of this myth is the recommendations of the Food and Nutrition Council, dated 1945 (over 70 years ago, wait a minute!), which stated that a person should drink 2.5 liters of water per day. But for some reason, everyone forgot about what was said next, namely, "Most of this amount is found in cooked food." Water is found in fruits, vegetables, juice, beer, even tea and coffee (can you imagine?!). The fact that coffee dehydrates the body, as studies show, is also not true. Yes, water is the best drink, but it's not the only source of moisture. You don't have to drink constantly to get the right amount of water. You also don't have to worry about never feeling thirsty. Human body designed to signal the need to drink long before dehydration sets in. Contrary to many stories you may have heard, there is no real scientific evidence that if a person drinks more water, their health will improve. For example, there is no evidence that drinking more water will make your skin more hydrated, healthier and wrinkle-free, our kidneys won't work better, and overall mortality won't decrease. Yes, true dehydration, when your body has lost a significant amount of moisture due to illness or increased physical exertion, can be a serious problem. But people with clinical dehydration usually have pronounced symptoms.

As a result of the study, it was determined that the osmolality of urine in more than half of the children is 800 mOsm / kg and above. The researchers also found that children who drank 8 or more glasses of water a day had 8 mOsm/kg less urine osmolality. If you consider urine osmolality of 800 mOsm/kg or higher to be "dehydration", then the results of the study are indeed alarming, as is this article. However, most doctors do not agree with this. Pediatricians rarely use urine osmolality to determine if a child is dehydrated. After interviewing a dozen doctors, we learned that 800 mOsm / kg is not the number to worry about. Even values bordering on 1,200 mOsm/kg are considered quite normal. In other words, there is no reason to worry about children whose rate is 800 mOsm / kg. Moreover, in 2002, a study of a more experimental nature was published in a pediatric journal. It determined that the average urinary osmolality of boys in Germany is 844 mOsm/kg, which is normal. However, this did not stop the researchers, and they still use 800 mOsm/kg to prove that many children suffer from dehydration. In 2012, a study published in the Journal of Nutrition and Metabolism found that two-thirds of children in France do not get enough water. A similar statement was published in Healthy Eating magazine, only it concerned the children of New York and Los Angeles. The first study was sponsored by Nestlé Waters and the second by Nestec, a subsidiary of Nestlé. It is possible that there are children who need to drink more water, but do not succumb to general panic. When two-thirds of healthy children are called sick year after year, based on some incomprehensible laboratory research, then most likely it is not they who are sick, but those scientists who deal with such nonsense. However, nothing can stop the mass passion for water.

Ecology of life. Psychology: For an ordinary woman - not a glossy bogey with a wallet instead of a brain, but one like you and me or like your wives, if you are suddenly a man - well, for her, money usually does not come first when she chooses a person for love.

For an ordinary woman - not a glossy bogey with a wallet instead of a brain, but one like you and me or like your wives, if you are suddenly a man - well, for her, money usually does not come first when she chooses a person for love.

She looks at his hands, listens to his voice, appreciates the jokes and seriously claims that "the brain is the sexiest organ." But you never know what she thinks about, but it’s definitely not about money in the first place. Seeing a person in front of you, and not his bank account, is normal for a healthy person - one that is not traumatized by hunger, poverty and fear for its future. And therefore, such women easily enter into relationships with men whose standard of living is several times lower than her own. It doesn't matter when you have such hands, such a voice and such... hmm... brain.

She herself is not a banker, she just completed her studies and worked up to a salary of a couple of thousand dollars, and he has all the income of five hundred at the most, and even then irregularly, but my God, what's the difference ?! When two souls meet, two intellects, two bodies that are attracted to each other, what does the bucks have to do with it?!

These novels are especially good in the summer, when you can walk around the city for long evenings, snacking on ice cream in a glass - just like in childhood! - kissing on the benches and chatting about everything in the world. By winter, the body begins to demand warmth, comfort and hot food, and the first dates most often take place in a cafe. And one day the woman starts to notice something.

No, he doesn't really want to go to the cafe, unless you insist. No, he is full and there will be only tea. He criticizes the local cuisine and does not recommend ordering hot dishes. Yes, in a neighboring institution, too, everything is bad. He hates Italian, Japanese and French food, but in the diner it turns out to be much tastier for him.

Even the most narrow-minded woman will gradually guess that he is saving. And her heart will be filled with tenderness: the poor boy is trying to entertain me, and I am pulling the last money out of him!

“Oh, I forgot to put on my watch.

She looked at him searchingly.
"And you didn't pawn them by any chance?"
He blushed again.
- Not. I was in a hurry to get dressed.
You only had to look at his tie to see that it wasn't. He lied to her. He pawned his watch to invite her to dinner. A lump formed in Julia's throat. She was ready, on the spot, to squeeze Tom in her arms and kiss his blue eyes. She adored him.
"Let's go," said Julia. ©Somerset Maugham, Theater

The heroine of Maugham, her boyfriend was fit for sons, but mature husbands in such situations can cause tenderness if a woman is very in love.

He is unusual, and his values are sublime, he is free from conventions and mercantile goals!

On this high wave, the action quickly turns to the stalls, and now you are already lovers, you no longer have to wander the streets, you can spend time with greater benefit.

But not for months. Full-fledged adult relationships need variety - I want joint walks, travel, intellectual experiences in the form of new performances, exhibitions and films. And, yes, you need to have lunch somewhere too.

People have not been shy about each other for a long time, a woman knows about his problems with money and understands the situation: either he feeds her an ice cream hamburger at home before a walk, and this is until the evening, or he still leads to a cafe on the way, but then eats kefir with a long loaf for a week . What will a decent woman choose? She will say the eternal: “Lord, what nonsense, let me feed you!” - “It was not enough for you to pay for me! If you really want to, buy yourself something, but I'm not hungry.

And now you are already in a situation where your love is sitting in front of you and swallowing noisily, and you are eating a steak. Great, just great.

And then the negotiations begin. Let me pay now, and you next time? Take at least a side dish, it won't ruin me. Do you want half? She learns to order extra dishes, eat a little and give him most of it - “something is not very good for me, please save me from this cutlet!”.

During meetings with friends, he quietly passes him a thousandth bill under the table. Yes, you never know tricks you can think of to save his pride. Here are just a natural physiological process, food, has become a disturbing ritual that takes too much attention. But there are still the mentioned exhibitions, performances and, God forbid, trips ahead. There is only one way out, or walk and ride alone, or pay for tickets and night taxis yourself.

And this is fair, I think: you are imposing a standard of living on a person that he cannot afford and, moreover, does not need for nothing - so why should he pay for it? He downloads movies for free, traveling around the country, spending the night with friends, and not in hotels, but he didn’t give a damn about abroad, which he didn’t see there. So you created the problem yourself, and pay off.

So it will be honest, but for some reason, I don’t know why, but your relationship begins to crumble. The man seems to calmly accept the situation, but becomes irritable in small things. You resent him with your plans to buy a new car, with your idiotic iPhone 6+, and he doesn’t like this hotel either, why did you rent a kennel on Nevsky Prospekt when his friends on Veteranov Avenue have an excellent sofa in the kitchen and they will also feed you homemade borscht. You don’t know how to cook like that, even if you try, poor thing.

The hotel on Nevsky, by the way, is really a kennel - you have to pay for two, and the quality of the service that you have to choose is steadily declining. But that's not why you break up. The situation is unbearable not for you - you still know that a person is more important than money. But the man can't handle it.

I don’t know what eats him up: gender stereotypes, low self-esteem, which whispers that he was bought, and inexpensively, or some other complexes, but he begins to get angry with himself and gradually transfers his rage to you.

You do not respect him, do not appreciate him, suppress him. Sooner or later, he will give you an example of some meek creature that looks into his mouth, but does not count the fillings, but simply considers him Santa Claus with a bag of gifts. And yes, you can delight her with a street donut and a glass of ice cream.

On Facebook, when I was discussing this topic with friends, one girl said an amazing thing: “... I realized that a person should be your size so that you do not have to become smaller, so as not to annoy him. It's complicated. It's like living in a house where the ceiling is just below your height, it's a little uncomfortable all the time, and then there's so much discomfort that all you have to do is get out, so as not to stay with your head pulled into your shoulders for the rest of your life.

And this, as you understand, is not about income - it's about the inner ability to bring gifts and joyfully accept them. About the confidence of a man that a person is still more important than money, his high self-esteem and the presence of other virtues, except for a fat wallet and macho pride. If all this does not happen, the relationship is doomed.

What if it happened?

Then we see excellent happy marriages, where a woman is better able to earn money, and a man has a lot of other virtues - he knows how to be a support, protection, a good father, an equal partner.

But you never know what this person is valuable if he knows how to respect himself and does not measure his importance with money.

But there are not so many such people, both men and women, among us, so these marriages are rare. But their existence gives many hope that the next "poor boy" is actually "above it all" and very, very free. Well, you never know, but suddenly. published

Sometimes we hold on to a person just because we are used to them or because we are afraid of what will happen in the future. And for this we are ready to endure everything that does not suit us and be in the negative. We find excuses for ourselves why this person is good, despite the fact that we get nothing but pain. You need to stop holding on to a relationship that has long since become obsolete. Let's decide why we should let this person go.

In the life of each of us there comes a moment when we have to part with someone - with ex-boyfriend or a girl, a friend, or just an acquaintance.

Once, when you first met this person, you were very good together, but after you got to know him better and spent some time with him, you begin to understand that a relationship with him is not only not good for you , but also, perhaps, make you stagnate.

Sometimes we hold on to people only because we have known them for a long time, and are used to the fact that they are part of our life. Yes, time spent together does bind people to each other, but if you feel that nothing else binds you except him, this reason is not enough to cling to this person.

We get used to people we know for a long time, and we are comfortable in their presence in the same way as we are comfortable surrounded by familiar things. But clinging to people just because of this, just because you are so used to them that you cannot imagine life without them, is hardly worth it.

Also, don't forget about fear. Fear is another reason why we can't move on, leaving useless people behind. Fear of being alone and not finding anyone to replace those who left, the fear that the people we abandoned will spill all our secrets in revenge, the fear that they will hate us, the fear that we will later regret what we have done.

But it happens that some people are much better off staying in our memory than staying close to us. Despite all the attempts to make your relationship with this person the way they once were, or to start new ones, in the hope that they will not be worse, the truth is that with him you will never be as happy as sometime.

As a rule, it turns out that both of you have changed too much, put too much pressure on each other, and expect too much to recreate what once was between you. And therefore it is better to leave the past in the past, and, with tenderness remembering it from time to time, move forward. Be thankful for what this relationship or friendship has taught you.

Well, if you do not cling to friendships and relationships that have become obsolete, you will not have any particular problems finding new ones. Yes, sometimes they are problematic. Sometimes they have to be corrected. But they will still be much better than the obsolete old ones.

If a person does not bring anything good into your life, does not treat you the way you would like, or not at all the way you would like him to be, this is a clear sign that you should move away from him.

And while it’s selfish to not accept a person for who they are, to endure friendships or relationships that only harm you or make you stagnate, it’s not fair to you.

Well, now that we have decided why we can hold on to a relationship that has become obsolete, let's decide why we should let this person go:

1. Let him go if you know that you will never be as good together as before.

We all change as we go through life, and that's okay. We can suddenly realize that we and our once bosom friends now have completely different tastes, different aspirations, hobbies and dreams. That you no longer understand each other, and the connection between you hangs in the balance.

Think - is it time to accept this, and let this person go? After all, is it much better than clinging to something that no longer exists, something that is unlikely to be returned, and something that, perhaps, never existed at all?

Sometimes it can be difficult for us to keep someone close, but remember that fate is destined for us to meet many people on our way. different people, and will never guess in advance what they will bring you - happiness, sorrow, pain or pleasure.

2. Let him go if there is no place for trust and loyalty in your relationship.

If you know deep down in your heart that you cannot trust this person, or that sooner or later he will betray you, it is not worth asking yourself if you even need him in your life. Trust and loyalty have always been the cornerstones of any friendship and personal relationship - and for a reason.

If it so happens that they have disappeared somewhere, this will certainly lead to paranoia, irritation, tension in relationships and anger - in general, everything that you can do without.

3. Let him go if you don't understand how you feel about each other

When friendships or personal relationships do not have well-defined boundaries, these relationships are neither pleasant nor healthy. If only because you constantly wonder what you mean to this person - and whether you mean anything at all. And if being around him doesn't make you feel important, think about why you would let someone treat you like that.

Wouldn't it be better to be in the company of a person who enjoys having you become a part of his life, who is proud that he managed to make an acquaintance with you, and who is not afraid to tell you or anyone else about it? To be close to someone who will not play with your feelings and thoughts, if only because he wants to enjoy your company further?

4. Let him go if the relationship or friendship with him is clearly harmful to you.

If a friendship or personal relationship with someone makes you unhappy, or makes you feel sorry for yourself, it's time to break up with this person. You can’t live by constantly feeling trapped, and even more so by allowing yourself to be treated worse than you deserve.

So if someone constantly puts you down, fights with you, ignores you, doesn't care about your feelings, bullies you, makes fun of you, makes you doubt yourself, or just acts like he doesn't care. you don't care... rid your life of negativity. And as soon as possible. Find in yourself at least a drop of self-respect - leave this person behind.

5. Let him go if you can't understand each other

It is difficult to maintain any kind of relationship with a person if you are always arguing with him, and you just can’t come to a common opinion at least in something. If the only thing you agree on is that you don't agree on anything, maybe it's time to end this pointless relationship?

Fate often brings together completely different people, and although in some cases they stay together no matter what, often this is not at all the case. And if you feel that your dissimilarity entails only disputes and conflicts, get out of such relationships.

6. Let him go if you're the only one trying to save your relationship.

If it seems to you that you have taken all the trouble to maintain your relationship, if only you give them all your time, feelings and efforts, think carefully about whether it is worth it. If someone truly loves you, cares about you, wants to be near you, and needs you, that person will never let you take on a heavy burden.

So try to connect your fate with the one who inspires you, who in a relationship with you gives no less than he takes, who is ready to fight for you to stay in his life. Look for a person who will sincerely believe that he is insanely lucky with you.

Look for a person who will be grateful to you for everything that you do for him, a person for whom you will be ready for anything. After all, you deserve it.

7. Let him go if he clips your wings.

If you understand that your relationship not only does not inspire you, but, on the contrary, knocks you down from heaven to earth, I advise you to take a closer look at them. Know that you deserve to have someone by your side who can support you in your life. life path and believe in you even when it is difficult for you to do it yourself.

8. Let him go if you're not getting what you want and need from your relationship.

Ask yourself if you could do without this relationship if you wanted to? Or do they still give you something so important to you that you cannot even imagine a life in which they are not? Yes, we are often told that we supposedly expect too much from people, but, on the other hand, why should we settle for anything less than real happiness?

Never, ever be ashamed of wanting to have a truly loving, caring, and sincere person by your side. The one who is able not only to listen, but also to understand, the one who can be trusted and who will trust you, the one who shares your aspirations. And the one who does not clip your wings, but helps you fly to the heights.

This program is suitable for everyone, both men and women. With its help, you will not only lose weight, but also increase muscle mass, and this is very important when losing weight. You do not need special equipment, a visit to the gym, only your desire.

What is required for this program? First, the availability of free time. You will need 45-60 minutes to get started. Over time, increase the duration of classes to 200 minutes. The main thing is gradualness, do not rush. Another important point is sufficient water intake.

Proper nutrition is also important! Remember this. Here is the plan to follow.

Monday

25 seconds of sitting against the wall;
15 seconds plank;
5 push-ups;
35 jumps from the position of the legs together, arms lowered into position, legs apart, arms up;
25 twists in the prone position;
15 lunges;
10 times the swing of the press;
10 leg loops while running in place.

Tuesday

10 squats without lifting your feet;
10 jumps from the position of the legs together, hands lowered into position, legs apart, arms up;
10 pushups;
25 lunges;
35 times of swinging the press;
45 seconds of sitting against a wall;
30 second plank;
20 leg loops while running in place.

Wednesday

15 squats without lifting your feet;
30 times the swing of the press;
35 seconds of sitting against the wall;
50 jumps from the position of legs together, arms lowered into position, legs apart, arms up;
25 leg loops while running in place;
25 lunges;
40 second planks;
10 pushups.

Thursday

35 squats without lifting your feet;
20 twists in the prone position;
50 lunges;
30 second plank;
50 times press swing;
60 seconds of sitting against the wall;
35 lunges;
25 jumps from the position of legs together, arms lowered into position, legs apart, arms up;
20 pushups.

Friday

25 squats without lifting your feet;
40 times of swinging the press;
60 second planks;
30 twists in the prone position;
60 lunges;
55 jumps from the position of legs together, arms lowered into position, legs apart, arms up;
45 seconds of sitting against a wall;
50 leg loops while running in place;